worst thing that could ever happen in anyones life, BIGGEST REGRET, do i need antidepressants ?????

[Paige W]

how old do you have to be to get antidepressants , ive recently just had an aboriton , and everyday i must cry for about 5 hours , i just cant get over it , i regret it so much , i did it for love , and because im too young , but its the worst thing thats ever happened to me i have awful dreams , and i always feel sick thinking about it , ive never been like this in my life , its not getting better , i know myself , and i really dont think i will ever forgive myself for what i did , im so upset and mad with myself , i just need something to calm me down a bit , i feel like im going to have a heart attact if i dont relax some how , i get awful dreams about it , and have flashbacks , please can somebody help me ? if antidepressants arnt the answer then what is ?

please dont make me feel more bad then i already do , please respect me enough to actually help me , i dont want to know im a murderer ,i already regret it enough , i want to know its going to be okay

[sara41505]

You will want to go see a doctor if possible, as there a few different things they might be able to do for you. Unfortunately this will be something that you will remember and have to deal with for the rest of your life, it might be in the front of your mind like it is now, but it will be there. This is something you are going to have to take it day by day. I wish there was some magic word to say to make this better but I cant, all I can say is that you need to go see a doctor. For the antidepressants they generally don't give them to anyone under 18. Then you will have to go to the doctors every two weeks for about 2 months and then every month for 2 moths and then every six months. But I don't think that antidepressants will help, not if you think are feeling you are having a heart attack. You might need something for anxiety. Hope I helped you.

[onlyme212529]

This is the MAIN fallback of an abortion(I am against it just to let you know so if I get off track then sorry) It is something that you may never get over....my sister in law had one almost 2 yrs ago and she is still like that. But she is constantly drugged up on anti depressants and any other drug she can get her hands on...she thinks it seems to help.Which it only makes it worse.
This is something you and you alone will have to get yourself out of.This is a hole that you must find a way out of with your own strength.No one on here can tell you what to do because its not for us to say. No man is worth your child sweetie and that may be one of the reasons it is hitting you so hard....People all the time do this because the partner does not want a child and thus things like this happen and people's feelings turn into what you are experiencing right now. It is a horrible thing to do and you have realized it,now the next step is to find out what YOU need to do to get over this and what YOU need to do to take your mind off of it,because honestly I do not see these feelings going away...I can see you pushing them to the back of your mind for small periods of time but there is really no outlet from these feelings considering it will probably stay with you through the span of your life.
The best thing I can suggest is try to relax a little...call your doctor and ask about anti depressants and other options you have...check into some support groups...

[ladypam]

The emotional and psychological effects of going through an abortion are truly devastating. It is these feelings of guilt and shame that are making you depressed. These feelings will fade but give it time. You can talk to a counselor or to someone you trust. The best that you can do is first pray. Go to a quiet room and pour out all your troubles to God. Then, follow these steps:
1. Visualize your baby. Visualize yourself holding the baby.
2. Baptize your baby by saying the words, "I baptize you (give a name for your baby) in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit."
3. Ask for forgiveness from your baby. Feel his/her forgiveness healing you.
4. Entrust your baby to the care of God.
5. Resolve your guilt feelings and forgive yourself for what you have done.

I have seen these steps do wonders to people who have undergone abortion or even miscarriage. Its better than taking antidepressants which will just make you feel worse.

Hope this helps.