Annoying things that made you stop dating someone

[Comfortably Numbed]

Loud mouthed know it all cocky unkind boorish disloyal men, looks are no good if you're a wanker, I'll step over you.
Well...just men really.

[Azen]

I've been there. This girl I started dating at work told me on our second date that she was my future wife, and she called herself YFW (your future wife) whenever she'd text or email me. It was hard ending it because we worked together. She was obsessed and left for Mexico on vacation after a couple of dates and called, emailed, texted constantly. When she got back, she wrote almost a hundred pages telling me every detail of every day what she did while on vacation. I told her that I was sorry but I couldn't handle being smothered. She kept trying for almost a year after that but eventually gave up. Scary indeed.

[dfitz]

@Azen~

You're lucky you didn't come home one day and find a bunny boiling on your stove.....or all your tires slashed.

[Azen]

@Azen~

You're lucky you didn't come home one day and find a bunny boiling on your stove.....or all your tires slashed.

Yeah, for real. A few months later I was talking to another girl that just started there while on break, and YFW came in the room. I was exchanging numbers with the new girl just at that moment. The new girl walked out because her break was over, and YFW started crying and asking me why I was talking to the new girl. I was really worried she might do something crazy because she did know where I lived.

[dfitz]

@Azen~

Sheesh....that story reminds me of the true-life story of Jodi Arias and Travis Alexander....have you ever heard of that murder case? He was high up in the Mormon hierarchy and she was a REALLY jealous, smothering type? Beautiful....but smothering....and obviously nuts....or a psychopath. She caught him making arrangements to go on a trip with another woman and killed him. It happened in Arizona.....and she stupidly, trying to wash the bedsheets, left her cell phone...with pics of him stabbed in the shower....in the washing machine and the police found it?

Have you ever heard of that case? I don't think she's gone to trial yet. Would have to google or check Websleuths to see. But there's insecurity and then there's INSECURITY.

Boy....you really have to be careful. Good thing you acknowledged the red flags and didn't let it go on and on like Travis Alexander did.

[TenaciousE]

1. A guy who ended every sentence with "you know what I mean, no do you?"
2. A guy who practiced tai chi and insisted in carrying with him some sort of walking stick which he claimed was an intergral part of his training
3. A guy who regulary wore tee and golf shirts with corporate labels like "All State Insurance"
4. A guy whose favorite band was "Lisa Lisa and the Cult Jam"
5. Guys with bat shit crazy mothers, they tend to be emotionally damaged beyond repair (I have dated several of those)
6. Guys who claim to play the guitar and make you sit there while they absolutely butcher "Stairway to Heaven"
7. Guys who reply to IMs with nothing but an emoticon

Boy I am glad I am married and no longer in the dating pool.

[Azen]

No, I've never heard of that case. I've been in some crazy relationships and I'm lucky that nothing like that has happened to me. I'm single now and enjoying it

Editing because I want to know how you quote @(name) without quoting the whole text.

[Roswell1947]

I once dated a guy in high school and my deal breaker with him was he always had to call mommy every time we went somewhere to tell her every minute if where he Would be. Seriously? We were leaving my house to run to grocery store to get some things for my mom. He had to call and tell his mom. Then we decided to stop by my best friends house to check on her as she had just had knee surgery, he had to call his mom when we arrived to her house and as we were leaving. I had to break it off without going to grocery store. I couldn't take it.

That's funny I had the identical situation except it was the opposite.
I dated a gal and every where we went her mom would want to know where she was.
It ended in her basement (at an unfortunate time)..Laura where are you? What are you doing??
Um looking for luggage.

[poocheroo]

Started dating a guy right after my divorce who was a lunatic. Had these violent temper tantrums where he would throw stuff. Told him I was washing my hands of the entire thing because I was in no mood for drama and I found his behavior tedious. He actually suggested we go to counseling after only dating for like a month! I am no stranger to bad choices in men but even I was thinking "mmm, I'm gonna pass." Counseling after 4 weeks of dating, I almost laughed in his face. I did suggest he give anger management a go.

[dfitz]

@Azen~

I don't use the quote function right under that person's post. I just do either a "quick reply" or a "post reply" and simply start by typing in "@" and then that poster's screen name and then I add an "~" (which is not necessary...just something I do...I'm sure you could use a ":" or whatever...or nothing). As long as you use that @ symbol followed by the person's name it should work. The name turns green when you send the post and I think the person gets some sort of points for that (I'm still learning the ropes here).

I have a question though....I just replied to a PM and not seeing it on the "sent" list. I sent the administrator a reply to something some time ago and that shows on the "sent" list but the two I sent a few minutes ago do not. Does it take a certain amount of time before a reply sent shows up on your "sent" list?

I've not figured out to send new PM's (as opposed to replying to one sent to you)....but I plan to figure out how to do that by reading the info. But just a bit worried I sent 2 replies and they might not have actually been sent to those people.

@poocheroo~

Do NOT get involved with a guy with anger issues. I learned the hard way.
The list of my priorities now are:
1. NICE
2. NICE and
3. NICE!

[GoingBananas]

With me it has been the honesty chain. it seem to get broken in almost every relationship I have had but one and ironically in that one I could not bring myself to find any passion for the woman.

We are talking about 4 serious ling-term relationships that at a deep level involved dishonesty that cut me to the bone. I entered therapy. Stopped dating for years. tried to work on myself so that I would not seek out those that would hurt me unknowingly.

Then, with extreme caution enter a new relationship, 6 months later, I would be crushed when something came out of the blue that I thought for sure I had covered and made sure of. I actually had a recent adviser tell me, "You may not be cut out for a relationship of any kind with the opposite sex!" !!! Oh no!!!

So, for me it the eternal question. What makes me end it? That sinking feeling.

[Azen]

@dfitz

Sweet, thanks for the response.

[HHMuse]

[QUOTE=JackB;248054]I once dumped a girl for being too clumsy. It sounds horrible but she was just one of those people that continually walked into things and knocked things over and broke things and it just used to really annoy me. She could walk into a room and I could predict what she would knock over before she even did it, she was that bad! QUOTE]

My husband has put that in this "watch this, it's funny" file.

[poocheroo]

@dfitz Amen to that. If I learned anything from my divorce it was that I would rather be alone than be with some a-hole. Life is too precious to waste it. It was very liberating and empowering to finally be able to date and be rather unsympathetic and drop someone fast if it was not what I wanted. Because I finally raised my standards, I didn't settle and met a wonderful man who turned into a wonderful husband and wonderful father.

[H20shed65]

1. A guy who ended every sentence with "you know what I mean, no do you?"
2. A guy who practiced tai chi and insisted in carrying with him some sort of walking stick which he claimed was an intergral part of his training
3. A guy who regulary wore tee and golf shirts with corporate labels like "All State Insurance"
4. A guy whose favorite band was "Lisa Lisa and the Cult Jam"
5. Guys with bat shit crazy mothers, they tend to be emotionally damaged beyond repair (I have dated several of those)
6. Guys who claim to play the guitar and make you sit there while they absolutely butcher "Stairway to Heaven"
7. Guys who reply to IMs with nothing but an emoticon

Boy I am glad I am married and no longer in the dating pool.

#4. Lisa Lisa and The Cult Jam??? You should have high tailed it the minute that came out of his mouth!!! I mean, did he also have a lot of Star Wars action figures , still in the boxes, on display , in his Mother' s basement, where he lived?

[mimi]

If I wasn't married, and if I was dating, I would break up with a guy who had a humongous ego and who thought his shit didn't stink. I would be looking for a very friendly guy who could make me laugh. A wandering eye is ok, but I wouldn't want to be cheated on - unless it was a threesome or something

[TenaciousE]

That's funny I had the identical situation except it was the opposite.
I dated a gal and every where we went her mom would want to know where she was.
It ended in her basement (at an unfortunate time)..Laura where are you? What are you doing??
Um looking for luggage.

Yep, I had a similiar experience. However this guy's Mother would actually call my Mother wanting to know where he was and what he was doing. Needless to say this made my Mother livid.

[JackB]

I would be looking for a very friendly guy who could make me laugh. A wandering eye is ok, but I wouldn't want to be cheated on - unless it was a threesome or something

Loving your work!! @ Mimi07

Probably the worst dating experience I have had was not so much annoying as very scary. Met this girl while I was on holiday in Ibiza, swapped numbers and then got in touch when we came back as we both lived in London. She seemed really nice and sweet, and was a pretty kind of "cute girl next door" type.

Anyway, we were seeing each other for a few months non exclusively but I felt like it was possibly getting a bit more serious. Then one day we decide to meet up and sit in the park as it was a nice day, we're talking about drugs (not for the first time) and she just casually drops into the conversation that she had a bit of a heroin problem a few years earlier! Not just smoking it, injecting it and everything. I got that rush of blood to the head feeling when you think you're going to pass out, I wasn't really judging her for it as I'm not like that but I suddenly convinced myself immediately that I had contracted HIV and freaked out. Then I was so convinced that I had it I couldn't bring myself to go to hospital for a test for a week because I didn't want them to confirm it!

In the end everything was fine, and I learnt an extremely valuable lesson, don't be a total ****ing idiot and wear a condom, always.

[juniperpansy]

It wasn't just once, but she kept doing it every 10-15 mins and they were pretty stinky. I had to leave the room and sleep on the couch. That was the end of that one.

You got it wrong matey. The grinding of teeth and farting is God's way of telling you that you must send the woman home after sex.

[Mlmk]

@UGAgal,
My poor son. That sounds like his requirements. Of course he is 15 but I expect that type of communication until he is 18 or no longer living under this roof. I'd be pissed if it were a man over 20 acting like that....unless he lives at home and mommie funds his life.