So I'm 22, I think I'm fairly attractive. I've got a good head on my shoulders and I've got a good sense of humor. I think.
Except all of that ends around the time I open my mouth.
I'm not what you call a social butterfly. When I start conversations with people I'm lucky if they last past the "how are you?" state. If there was a conversations handbook I would probably buy it and still be unable to come up with something to say to kill awkward silences.
Even when I'm around people who I've known all my life I feel like I'm just buying time until I can end the small talk and run away.
Sad, isn't it?
My question or specifically what I'm looking for is, if I'm so bad at this small talk thing with close friends and relatives, then how in the world am I supposed to do this with a random stranger in a bar? Or a restaurant?
It's not that I don't want talk to people, I do. I like having conversations...Granted most of them happen to be behind computer screens or if they are face to face they last all of five minutes.
Ahem. Anyway, case and point. I'm riding the bus and a very good looking guy sits next to me. Something happens on the bus and he makes a remark about it and I comment back. Great opener for a conversation right? Too bad I just sat there awkwardly not knowing what to say. Then he gets off the bus and says goodbye to me and I just know I'm never going to see him again. And I haven't.
Any words of advice or encouragement for this loser?